Dear Friends,
Before my spouse's death, we spent many hours together. Dinners,
bar-b-ques, vacations, conversations, goals, birthdays, and more, together. The men shared
conversations of sports, work, politics, religion, etc. The women shared stories of their
children, relatives, shopping, recipes, etc. (I'm not generalizing here, just listing some
activities I've experienced.)
Dear Family,
Before my spouse's death, we were invited to family get-togethers. We
shared birthdays, anniversaries, and graduations. We exchanged gifts at Christmas. We
babysat children and pets. We were there in emergencies.
But now, that my spouse has passed away, you are all missing from my life. I am now alone and I miss your friendship. Our time and activities together have been enjoyable and informative. I miss them greatly. The value of our friendship is now more important than ever. I'm need a base from which to rebuild my life, but you aren't there anymore.
I know that we joined in these activities as husband and wife or life partners, but we are now represented by just me, though they are in my heart wherever I go. I know that my spouse or partner would want me to go on living, being with friends and family, but the calls, visits and invitations don't come anymore. When they died, you said "If there is anything I can do, just ask." So, I am asking. Please, don't forget about me? I need my family and friends now more than ever.
